When I ask a question, my hidden agenda is this: I don't know the answer, and I would like to know the answer.
That's it. I'm neither a politician nor a lawyer - I'm not trying to score points or lay a clever trap for you, nor am I implying some criticism or demanding that you drop everything and get something done. And neither is the real question something I've not asked but am keeping in reserve.
I don't know the answer, and I would like to know the answer.
You know, just in case you were wondering but didn't want to ask lest I take it the wrong way.